sosubtlyobvious replied to your post “I suspect the essence of coolness is the lack of fear.”
Did you listen to the latest radio lab?
Yeah, that’s exactly what made me say that. Honestly meant that post more as a placeholder to expand on later.
I used to think not caring defined being cool, but that didn’t feel quite right.
Now I think you can be cool by not being afraid and/or not showing fear. Makes sense from an evolutionary perspective.
, I don’t know anything about cool. Confidence, only sometimes. Much of what I’ve done in the last 5 years has been pretty scary, but I have done it WITH the fear, not without it or trying to hide it.
I half-jokingly call myself a nihilist a lot, and sometimes a pessimist, though realist and pragmatist feel pretty comfortable. I really connected with the part of that podcast when they talked about nihilism and pessimism being only the beginning, like a gate to a different level. Not necessarily a superior one, but a different pattern of thinking. It has been enlightening and liberating to me to realize that very little, if anything, I do really has any significance, other than maybe to my own children in the short term. It takes the weight off, eases the pressure. At the same time, that gives me the opportunity to really appreciate sequences of events and coincidences even more.
I’m most comfortable in chaos. I’m in a particularly philosophical mood right now, so that all may seem overly self important. Inside my head, it’s all quite a bit lighter.
I think I need to read Eugene’s book.